Some disabled people who follow my blog asked me, "In this world, many disabled women are suffering from mental depression due to their physical disabilities. If possible, please provide counseling to such women. Also, please explain what steps can be taken to eliminate the misconceptions and discrimination against disabled people in the matter of marriage."
As a disabled woman, I am providing an in-depth article to make others think about respecting the feelings of another disabled woman. Additionally, I will provide counseling for individuals facing similar situations.
Marriage is a beautiful dream in every person's life. A companion, a bond, a new life. But, when it comes to the disabled, this dream often remains a dream. The way society views them and the discrimination shown towards them fills their lives with great sadness. Even though their minds are filled with many hopes and love, they are left alone when the word marriage comes up.
Just because someone has a physical disability, does that mean they don't have the right to love? Don't they have the ability to take care of someone? Don't they deserve to share their life? The minds of the disabled are constantly tormented by these questions posed by society. They want to have a family like everyone else and a life partner who can share their feelings. But society mercilessly crushes their dreams.
The insults they face when trying to get married are indescribable. Words like "You can't do household chores because you are disabled," "You won't be able to have children," and "How will my son/daughter live with someone like you?" damage their self-confidence. They only see their shortcomings, but no one recognizes the good heart, love, and responsibility in them.
Even though some disabled people want to marry someone like them, the pressure from family members discourages them. The question "How will life be if both of them are disabled?" depresses them even more. Why can't they understand that disabilities are not a barrier to love and affection? Why can't they believe that they can stand by each other and form a strong bond?
This discrimination is not just at the individual level but also at the societal level. Seeing them as special at weddings, talking less about them, and not allowing them to be fully present at celebrations makes them even more isolated. The feeling that society sees them as different haunts them constantly.
The emotions of the disabled are very sensitive. They also have all kinds of emotions like love, anger, pain, and happiness. They expect to be treated equally and to live a normal life for themselves. We should recognize their strengths, not their weaknesses. We should encourage them to increase their self-confidence.
It is time for society to change its focus. Instead of just pitying the disabled, we should recognize them as human beings. We should respect their rights. We should help them make their dreams come true. We should understand that love and marriage are not tied to physical abilities.
This issue raised by the readers is very important and is an unfortunate reality faced by many disabled women in society. It is not entirely reasonable to tell a disabled woman, "You don't need to get married anymore; you are too old," when she reaches the age of 30-35, and this shows serious discrimination.
The reasons for this are
● Age is not the same for everyone: 35 is not the end of the age to get married. In general, many women and men are getting married after 30 or even in their 40s. Age is just a number. It is unfair to link a person's love, desire for companionship, or ability to lead a family life with age.
● Discrimination against the disabled: The wrong views that society has about the disabled are clearly visible here. Focusing on their shortcomings rather than seeing them as normal people leads to such vicious conclusions. A disabled woman also has the right to love, to be loved, and to choose a life partner.
● Discrimination against women: Some stereotypes about women in our society may also be the reason for this. Many people have the feeling that a woman should not get married after a certain age. This is even more severe in the case of disabled women.
● Ignoring their personal wishes: Those who say, "You don't need to get married anymore" are not taking into account the personal wishes and feelings of that woman at all. Everyone has the freedom to decide how to live their life.
● Underestimating their abilities: Disabled people can live their lives independently and happily. Their lives will be better if they have a companion. Underestimating their abilities and deciding that they are unfit for marriage damages their self-esteem.
Such comments have a serious psychological impact on women with disabilities:
- Depression and loneliness: The disappointment of not being able to find a life partner makes them feel alone.
- Loss of self-confidence: Makes them feel low in self-esteem.
- Anger and distress: They feel anger and distress at the discrimination that society is showing towards them.
- Impact on mental health: There is a possibility of developing mental problems like depression and anxiety.
Therefore, whether a woman with disabilities reaches the age of 30-35 or whatever age she reaches, it is completely her personal decision whether she wants to get married or not. Society should respect her and support her choice. Making such discriminatory comments is an inhumane act and needs to be condemned.
There are many misconceptions about the disabled in our society. Especially when it comes to marriage, discrimination against them is common. Many people think that women with physical disabilities are not suitable for marriage. How true are these misconceptions? We should think about it.
Some common myths and their truths:
● Myth: People with disabilities cannot do household chores.
○ Truth: Everyone’s abilities are different. Many people with disabilities can do their own chores. There is nothing wrong with seeking help if needed. Especially now that technology has advanced a lot. There are many tools available to make their tasks easier.
● Myth: People with disabilities do not have children, or even if they are born, they have defects.
○ Truth: This is completely untrue. Many people with disabilities have healthy children. In some special cases, there may be genetic problems. But this does not apply to all people with disabilities. This can be clarified by seeking medical advice.
● Myth: People with disabilities are a burden to the family.
○ Truth: This is a very painful myth. Many people with disabilities are educated, work, and support their families. They have immense talent. If given the right opportunity, they are not a burden to anyone.
● Myth: Marrying a disabled person will make life difficult.
○ Truth: Every relationship has its challenges. Both parties have to face them together. With love, trust, and cooperation, any challenge can be overcome. It is not right to think that life is difficult just because of a physical disability.
What can be done to eliminate discrimination?
1. Awareness raising: Awareness programs should be organized to remove the misconceptions about disabled people in society. Their success stories and their abilities should be made known to everyone.
2. Education and employment opportunities: Disabled people should be provided with good education. They should be provided with suitable job opportunities. If they are financially stable, their position in society will improve.
3. Support systems: Special support groups should be formed for disabled women. They should be encouraged to share their pain with each other and give each other courage. Counseling services should be made available to them.
4. Legal protection: There should be strict laws to protect the rights of disabled people. Action should be taken to punish those who discriminate against them.
5. Positive attitude: Everyone in the society should have a positive attitude towards the disabled. They should be treated with respect. They should be treated equally.
The disabled are also human beings like you. They also have the right to love, they have the right to be happy, and they have the right to get married. If we can see the good heart in them without looking at their physical defects, their lives will be very beautiful.
Dear readers! Change should start with you. Change your thoughts towards the disabled, stand by them, and build a society free from discrimination!
I hope my words will give some comfort to you who are facing these situations. I know that you are suffering from not getting married due to physical defects. I can completely understand your pain. But remember one thing—there is no defect in you; only your body is different. Every human being has unique qualities. There are many great qualities hidden within you too. Recognize them.
You deserve to love and be loved. Your life partner loves not your body, but your mind and your personality. That person may be waiting for you somewhere.
You are not alone. There are many women like you in this society. Be with each other. Share your experiences. Give each other courage. Build self-confidence. Identify your strengths and improve them. Study, get a job, and stand on your own two feet. If you are independent, your self-respect will increase. Do not be bothered by the wrong opinions of society. Times are changing. People's thoughts are changing. There are also good people who understand people like you.
Remember, you are special. You have a heart to spread love, and you have the ability to maintain bonds. Do not let the discrimination of society discourage you, and maintain your self-confidence. There is definitely a good future for people like you. You will get a good life partner. Be patient, try. Your dreams can come true.
You will always have my support. Be brave. There will definitely be happiness in your life.
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